Dating someone with childhood trauma
Responses and reactions to childhood sexual abuse are varied from person to person and can include: Emotional Isolation - children who live through sexual abuse feel emotionally isolated.Often, the abuser threatens the child he or she is abusing that the child must keep the secret.
Childhood sexual abuse means loss of innocence, loss of childhood experiences, loss of trust, innocence, a normal family dynamic.
These losses must be named, grieved, then buried, to move on with your life.
Betrayed Trust - a child who has been sexually abused has also had their trust fragmented, especially if his or her abuser was a family member.
Trusting other people - and even trusting yourself - after experiencing childhood sexual abuse can be difficult.
Self-Blame and Guilt - children often misinterpret the reason that he or she was sexually abused.
The child may feel as though the sexual abuse was his or her fault, or a punishment for misbehaving.
Keeping a secret like being sexually abused can make the child feel different, apart from others - like he or she isn't "normal".The sexual assault perpetrator may even have told the child that he or she was "being punished" for "being bad." As most children assume that adults are "right," and the guilt and shame for being punished in such a violating manner can persist well into adulthood.Triggers - childhood sexual abuse survivors often have things that trigger memories of the abuse.These triggers can include things like gynecological exams, childbirth, sexual touch from partners, certain smells, some colors, types of furniture or cars, can bring back memories that hold feelings about the abuse.These triggers can be very vivid and painful for a sexual assault survivor. Because childhood sexual abuse interrupted an important developmental process and broke feelings of trust during a particularly vulnerable time, adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse may have stronger, different reactions than other sexual assault survivors.Mourning - an adult survivor of sexual abuse may come to realize just how much he or she lost after he or she was victimized.